When bad things happen to good people

When we see sad events in the news, like the recent devastation in Nepal, it is easy to question why such things happen when there are so many innocent people displaced—or worse—at least according to our human view. I once asked the angels why a person would leave their life via a natural disaster and quickly learned there can never be a generic answer:

“We cannot generalize here, for each person has a unique vibration and a unique reason for being exactly where they are. Some of them, before they came to earth, wanted excitement on the way out. Some were dear souls intending to be here a short time and leave in a way that inspired compassion. Some had lived long lives and weren’t sure if they wanted to be here anymore. Some were souls whose patterns caused them to ignore very strong guidance on a fateful day.

Some were looking forward to the adventure of a lifetime and, at the soul level, were open to an adventurous journey catapulting them through the dimensions. Some were disgruntled with life and just wanted things to be easier. Some were guides, willing to leave the planet right alongside other souls in order to help them into the light. There are as many reasons as there are human beings vibrating in different ways.” —the Angels

Many times this concept of vibration, intention, and manifestation has blown my mind. In my younger years, I went through a phase where I was disenchanted after taking care of many people and whined to the angels, “I just want someone to take care of me!”

“Careful,” they replied! “Be more intentional. Attune to a kinder reality. You don’t want to be in an accident that matches your current victim vibration and have to have someone take care of you!”

That snapped me out of victim mode! I cleaned up that energy ASAP! I changed it to something more loving: “I’d like to attract people in my life with whom I experience a joyful give-and-take.” I started to let go of my “poor me” story. I stopped whining, “I’m always the responsible one. I’m always the one who has to take care of others!” (Can you hear the tiny violin?) And I started to tune into what mutual relationships would feel like.

Soon, I attracted the friends I have to this day. I started receiving great service when I hired people. People started giving back to me. It was all vibrational. I had always been a good person. I just had a sad vibration that needed adjusting!

The angels like to use the analogy of Velcro—the hook-and-loop tape that you see on jacket sleeves and in sewing projects. We have to have loops for situations and people to stick to us, energetically speaking. If we don’t care about people’s opinions, they can’t hook us with their opinions about us. If we love life, we are open to love of all types attaching itself to us. If we have impatience, which is often fear wearing a mask—hurry up and show me so I can believe!—then we’ve got room to be hooked into disappointment.

In my early thirties—for the umpteenth time in a row—I had attracted a relationship where I gave all I had and was not treated kindly. A psychic at a gathering looked at me, shook her head, raised her eyebrows, and said, “So, how’s it working out?”

“Um, we have our challenges like everyone else,” I answered, as I nicely avoided the truth.

The look she gave me drilled into my soul. “Poor little thing. You’re always giving in the hope you’re gonna get some back.” She walked away, leaving me with a truth-bomb that took a few years to unpack.

She was right. Instead of peacefully walking away from what obviously wasn’t working, I tried to give more, pay for more, and love more. It wasn’t authentic, and it wasn’t healthy. I had the loops open to be hooked into this unhealthy dynamic. Eventually, as I closed those loops by learning self-worth, I wasn’t able to be hooked into that dynamic again.

So while we’re often more than a little indignant about having good things happen to not-so-good people and bad things happen to good ones, we have to remember that what most of us learned about this topic was based on man’s notion of God rather than a true understanding of the impartial nature of the vibrational universe and the immense love that allows us the freedom to create as we wish.

Here are a few pointers to help you make peace with the understanding that vibrational law is impartial, to comfort you when you see bad things happen to good people, and to empower you to keep your own vibration clean so you—dear good soul—can experience good!

1.  Look Beneath the Surface

Sometimes it is hard to understand why tough things happen to good people and good things happen to ones behaving badly. If you need specific answers, wait for a calm moment, set judgments temporarily aside, shut your eyes, and ask the Creator to show you the energy dynamics at play.

Ask, “Why did this person experience that?” and wait for the understanding to come to you. Often there is so much more at play than we can see with our eyes or know with simply our minds.

2. Be the Love That You Are

When you see something tough happening to someone good, instead of becoming powerless and lost in feelings of injustice, do something. Pray for them. Imagine wrapping them in light. Whisper words of encouragement telepathically to their souls. If you are inspired and have the resources, send help.

The thing that saves us from becoming lost in upset or despair when we witness people having tough times is to bring our own love to the surface.

3. Be Kind to Yourself

When you feel whiny, upset, angry, or sad, just accept yourself. Comfort yourself. Then look for something to feel better about. If you need to release the feelings, talk to someone—even if only your angels. Journal and shred your feelings. Find something to be grateful for. Anything that helps you feel better works.

A brief dip into the lower vibes won’t hurt you, but you don’t want to stay there consistently

As we look at the world, it is easy to judge, based on age-old criteria, what we believe should and shouldn’t happen to others. But the more you focus on shoulds, the less you focus on what is. When you focus on what is, you can do something about it.

We can pray for the families of those lost in the floods. We can send donations. We can hold them in our light and our hearts. We can ask those who are now in bliss in the heavens to comfort those who remain, although many already are. And we can thank God that we are living in kinder realities.

The only thing we can control is our own vibe, but it is well worth doing. A life of love for others, lived in balance with healthy self-love, is one we will feel wonderful about when we look back from the heavens. Those who deviated from love, no matter how much they attract while here, will feel that emptiness in the end. Good souls will feel good about their lives. The justice is not crime and punishment but rather soul-satisfaction—or not.

Speaking of that, many have asked me how Dolly Parton is doing after her transition. I peeked in, and she was being received by thousands of souls in heaven who are grateful for how she helped them or their loved ones on earth. She is feeling the outpouring of love and gratitude from millions on earth, and she looked overwhelmed by the outpouring of love, in tears of joy.

She was beaming it right back at everyone, sending them her love—a shining example of someone who didn’t let her circumstances define her vibration but rather chose time and again to be the loving soul that she is. And what love she is receiving in return! May we all feel so satisfied about our hearts and our lives when we look back someday too.

PS – The  photo is a web in front of a house in Iceland that got overtaken by lava a few years ago.