Letting go of Resistance

Most of you know that I used to be an electrical engineer. So, when the angels talk about resistance, it makes sense to me. If you have a copper wire that is very pure, the electrons flow unimpeded through it, and you have a strong and fast current. 

If you have a lot of impurities in the wire, the electrons “bump into them,” so to speak, have to find their way around them, and the flow of electrons is slowed down or dampened out considerably. If you have enough impurities (resistance) in the wire, you can even have a short as the flow tries to push past the blockages and creates friction. This is an oversimplification but one that works well to help us understand the concept of resistance to love.  This short YouTube video has some great pictures to demonstrate the idea.

When the angels talk about “Resistance to love,” it can be confusing because we’d never say, “No, I don’t want what I want. Don’t bring it! I’m blocking it!”  That sounds absurd. Of course, we want love. Of course, we want what we want.  But they’re not talking about mental or intellectual resistance. They are talking about resistance to a flow of energy.

Any thought or feeling that runs contrary to what you are asking for creates this type of energetic resistance. They’re like “impurities in the wire.” By their very nature, they slow down the flow.

So, what to do when it is hard to think positively about what you want?  The universe is always trying to help us find more loving thoughts and things to focus on. Think of a creek. It wants to flow downstream. There’s a mighty power wanting to create that flow. If there are boulders in the way or a logjam, the creek tries to move them, but if it cannot, it goes around them.  Likewise, we can try to think positively about what we want, but if those boulders (doubts, fears, complaints, upsets) are too big, then it is best to simply go around our blockages.

I had a funny example of this last weekend. I’ve started doing my ice baths and saunas again, and I love it.  But I forgot that it can deplete you of minerals and you have to drink more water. And so I was feeling a little strange in the body on Sunday. I didn’t know why, and I was “too busy” to sit and receive the answers, so I focused on all the other things I wanted to do.  Later, I noticed that the pool needed a refill. I forgot to turn the water off and overfilled it. As I was leveling it off, I noticed a leak in my sprinkler system! Luckily, I had exactly one spare part. As I pulled off the leaky riser, I was soaked by a massive geyser!!!  That led me to the thought that I wanted an Epsom salt soak before dinner because dining soaked in sprinkler water didn’t sound fun. And that… That led to the realization that I was seriously short on minerals and water!

You can easily say that this wasn’t the easiest path for me, but honestly, it was!  I was rushing around, not quieting my mind enough to hear the answers. Since the universe couldn’t get through to me directly, it found the most clever, creative way to get my attention while also answering another prayer that I had, which was to figure out why my water bill had been astronomical last month. The leak was fixed. I got cleaned up and had a nice dinner, and I am now back to an appropriate intake of minerals and water.  It was somewhat hilarious, and I got a great story for the newsletter.  

I could have made the path easier by sitting still, breathing, focusing on feeling wonderful, and waiting for answers. I could have made the path easier by going out to look in the yard earlier, as I’d been inspired to do. However, I was too busy telling myself I didn’t have time, and so the universe found the easiest path to get my answers with humor and without harm.

This is a small, silly thing, but when two dear friends and a family member discovered potentially life-threatening problems these past few months, I took not-resisting love seriously. I didn’t waste a moment focused on fear or worry. I focused on their living beyond the problem, and they did, too, and all of them had life-saving procedures.  Had I focused on worrying, I would have been powerless to support them.

Likewise, when I’ve injured myself, focusing on the problems has not helped. Believing in an “incurable” diagnosis has not helped. I no longer have “permanent” neuropathy, even though I was once sentenced to life with it. I learned to stop focusing on all that was “getting on my nerves” at the time and focus on what felt great. The condition disappeared. When I had an astronomical repair bill last December, I gave it to God and got on with loving life. It is now behind me.

A very dear client recently told me about doing a few small things to feel better on a day that was difficult and how that led to a wonderful “chance” meeting and a week of business that had previously been frustrating and stagnant. The decision to pamper herself and go to lunch opened her to a mighty flow of assistance.

It doesn’t take much to release resistance to love.  In fact, it is often easier than we think.

 Here are a few pointers to help you find a way:

1.  If you can’t feel good about a topic, focus on something else

If you’ve ever seen a loving parent with an upset child, you’ve probably witnessed the power of distraction! I first saw it years ago when a friend with a young child was faced with her daughter having an epic tantrum at a restaurant where we were waiting for our food. My clever friend ignored her child’s anger and started playing with sugar packets, tossing them to me and encouraging me to toss them back. We made it a game.

Her daughter stopped wailing, became curious, and wanted to play. Without any fuss at all, my friend had distracted her daughter from an upsetting topic and helped her find something to feel good about. Genius. She helped her daughter release resistance to love by finding something that felt better than the tantrum.

We can do this for ourselves.  If you can’t feel good about a problem, person , or situation, focus on something else that you can feel good about. The river will flow around your blockages if you allow for that.

2. Keep a list or a collection of things that help you feel good

It helps to have “mood elevators” on hand. You might keep a few books in easy view that inspire you. You might make a feel-good playlist on YouTube or in your music app. You might keep a file with compliments and good words that people have sent you. You might put up pictures or art that inspires you or keep a file of inspiring images on your computer. You might watch “Laughing Babies” or “Guilty Dogs” on YouTube till you can laugh once again!

I saw an interview with the Dalai Lama once. The interviewer said, “You never get down, do you?” The Dalai Lama laughed and said, “Of course I do!” Incredulous, the interviewer asked, “How do you handle it?” We all waited, expecting deep spiritual answer. “I watch funny animal videos,” he replied. There you go! One of the world’s most incredible spiritually wise beings employs the power of distraction when down. Genius! We can, too.

At first, you’ll “just” feel better. Then, you’ll start being a little more inspired. Eventually, as you open to more and more love and good feelings, ideas and miracles will start to flow.

3. Don’t wait until you feel “worthy”

We have been conditioned to be hard on ourselves!  If we trip, we berate ourselves for being clumsy instead of just saying, “Oops,” and allowing spirit for help. If we make a “bad” financial decision, we waste too much time and energy looking back instead of opening to love now and allowing new abundance to flow. If we get into a tough relationship, we can spend hours to years justifying our decision to leave instead of just saying, “Now I know better,” and opening back up to the good in the moment.

We are all worthy of love now. Not when we get more holy. Not when we suddenly release anger or sadness.  Not when we finally figure out how we could have done something better. Right here. Right now.  In this big, beautiful instant, no matter what you’ve done or not done, said or not said, you are worthy of love, help, miracles, and assistance.

We need to give ourselves permission to feel better. The universe already knows your worthiness. The angels know it. The Divine knows it. They flow love because they are love. The river doesn’t judge the landscape unworthy. It just flows where it is permitted. 

It is a huge mental shift to accept the 5D universe and to start living according to its principles. It doesn’t make sense in the 3D world that feeling better about anything can help you with everything. However, in the world of energy, it does. As we release the “resistance” to love, we become like those pure copper wires that allow electrons, or in our case love, to flow unimpeded. We become the landscape that allows the river to flow. We become the radio that receives the right signals.

As we release resistance to love, we experience ourselves as the spiritual beings that we are—focusing our energy, opening to the energy, and allowing the energy to inspire and guide us to all that we desire. We do this by degrees. I still find areas where I block love in subtle ways, but the more you practice letting go and letting love flow, the quicker you can let it in and let it work its magic in your life.