Finding focus amid frenzied frequencies!

A few weeks ago, I had the privilege of going on a long hike for the first time in over 15 months. Someone I admire wanted to visit a place I’ve been many times, so we arranged to meet and have an adventure.

The weather was perfect. The day was beautiful. The creek and the conversation flowed with grace.

Up until a few weeks before the hike, I still had some issues with my feet. I mostly willed them away. During the seven-mile trek, they only locked up a few times, and a little meditation brought them quickly back into balance. I wasn’t in shape. I wasn’t a beauty queen. I wasn’t as prepared as I would’ve liked. But connection and joy open us to the Divine flow—and it felt wonderful.

Feeling empowered by being outdoors again, I started willing my vision back, too—and it has already improved dramatically. Even with the crazy energies on Earth, staying centered in self and doing what fills you up can keep you in a good space and above the noise.

Being outdoors, whether it’s in the woods or just the backyard, is one way I stay centered and tune out of the world’s vibe. Sitting in silence is another. Crafting, listening to music, talking to friends… anything that delights us helps keep us out of the frequency soup the world is offering and in our own vibration. It takes work to consciously stay centered in self, but it’s worth the effort.

It has been an interesting year. So many people have told me they’re feeling the chaotic energies. People are getting triggered left and right. Feelings and memories long buried have been bubbling up. People who’ve kept quiet their whole lives are voicing opinions, and others who always had a lot to say are finding peace in silence. I’ve never seen so many people with liver and gallbladder issues either as old anger rises up for release.

Like a rudder on a ship seeks to steady itself in a storm, we’re all trying to find balance in these choppy emotional waters. It can feel exhausting.

But it can also be fun and energizing when we stay true to our inner compass. We can feel tremendous relief and freedom when we remember: we’re not here to please anyone. We’re not here to save anyone, fix anyone, or teach anyone. We’re here to love authentically—and that looks different for everyone.

Sometime, love means delightfully pleasing another. Sometimes it means being true to yourself and allowing others to have their own feelings.

Sometimes love means agreeing while other times it means lovingly disagreeing while honoring someone else’s truth.

Sometimes love means hopping in the car to help a friend, and sometimes it means being honest about what you can’t do or don’t feel guided to do.

There’s no formula for “how to love” or “how to stay true to yourself,” but there’s always an inner guidance system that will let you know what feels right in the moment.

Here are a few pointers to help you stay in your own vibration so you can enjoy your life, your energy, and your peace—no matter what the world is doing…

1.  Honor your natural rhythms

Everyone has a cycle that’s perfect for them. Some are early risers. Others are night owls. Some people do better with two big meals a day; others need smaller meals more frequently. Some folks work best in short two-hour bursts, while others enjoy day-long marathons.

When you experiment, find your natural rhythms, and honor them, you’re moving with your own nature. You’ll feel better, have more energy, and naturally attune more easily to what is good for you.

2. Honor your feelings

You don’t always have to understand your feelings in order to accept and honor them.

If you’re tired, rest. If you’re sad, hug yourself and do what brings you comfort. If you’re angry, vent in private, or do some “vehement vacuuming” and burn it off.

When we accept our feelings without judgment or shame, we choose to love ourselves, and from that space, we naturally begin to more easily love others.

3. Give up the need to acknowledge everything and everyone

You don’t have to read every ad, click every link, finish every book, or absorb everything that comes your way.

You don’t need to read articles you’re not drawn to.

You don’t need to finish conversations that drag you down—you can politely bow out or simply remain silent.

You don’t need to give to every charity or volunteer to solve every problem.

You benefit more by being honest—with yourself first and then with life.

There are a lot of energies vying for our attention. There always have been, but they just feel more intense right now. We don’t have to give in to all of them. We only have to practice self-acceptance and be honest with ourselves and life.

Funny enough, as we give up people-pleasing, we often please more people. As we stop trying to pay attention to everything, we start selectively focusing on what really matters. And as we stay in our own lane, energetically—by being true to self—we give the world a clear, honest view of what it will or won’t receive in our presence.

In this way, we can feel the world without being controlled by its chaos.

In this way, we become lighthouses built on solid rock—shining a beacon for others to follow home to their own precious, perfect, unique, and beautiful self.