Empaths, tuning, and feeling good in a wild world

So many of you have shared with me that you’ve been feeling an unnamed anxiety—a sense that something awful is going to happen. There are plenty of people on Earth arguing that this is our trajectory. There’s a lot of fear being projected by the masses. You feel it. I feel it. It’s as real as bad weather—yet the love of the Divine is as constant and real as the sun behind the clouds.

Long ago, the angels told me I could either broadcast love or receive whatever frequencies happened to be flying around. I would much rather broadcast love. It feels so much better. It allows me to share light rather than be taken under by the darkness.

Like you, I see a lot going on that is upsetting in our world—both big and small. There are the massive cruelties of war, and there are the mundane annoyances—like finding out I may owe an $80 tariff at the post office for a $40 item I ordered on eBay if it doesn’t arrive in the U.S. before the end of the month, when new laws kick in. In the past, that would have had me in fits. I choose not to give it my joy.

Likewise, I choose not to focus on the cruelties of war, but instead to be the peace and the kindness—so I can withdraw my energy from the vibrations that give birth to war and cruelty. We are not abandoning those in need by tuning out the negative. We are keeping ourselves open to guidance about what we can do, rather than feeling powerless and angry.

Beyond world service, choosing our tuning is incredibly practical, and it can save us a lot of trouble.

Just this Wednesday, I went grocery shopping. I was enjoying a friendly chat with the clerk, admiring the fresh produce, delighting in the beautiful grocery bags I designed, and soaking up the glorious blue sky. I felt blessed and grateful for the day.

Then, as I was leaving the parking lot, a parked car suddenly burst into reverse, heading straight toward me! It was as if time slowed down. I swerved, missing him by inches. A moment later, he seemed to “wake up,” clearly having been somewhere else in his head. I was fine. My car was fine. And I had an intense wave of gratitude before returning to a beautiful day.

It could have gone very differently. Had I been stewing over a problem, I wouldn’t have been present enough to respond, and he would have hit me. I’d have been dealing with car repairs, a jolt to my body, and squashed groceries. Instead, love guided my reaction so precisely that I got around him unscathed.

That’s the simple power of being in a loving vibe: those in an unloving vibe can’t “get” you. And perhaps I spared him an even bigger mess by jolting him out of his unconscious state. We’ll never know.

So, for all of you empaths struggling to feel good right now—yes, you can tune into the good in spite of the nonsense going on. You can be of service without feeling the pain. I’m living proof. I feel everything. I’ve sensed solar flares moments before they knocked out a power grid. I think of someone and feel them. I look at someone and feel them. I tune into people’s pain, trauma, and fears every day—and yet, the angels have taught me to focus on flowing love and appreciation so strongly that, unless I slack off, I feel good.

If I can learn this, so can you. I didn’t go easily! Like many of us, I wanted the world to change so I didn’t have to do the work of watching my tuning. I wanted people to make it easy for me to feel good. And I still like that—luckily, I have many in my life who do—but the truth is, not everyone will. Not every situation will thrill you.

But there’s so much good out there that can thrill us. And the angels love to give us permission to focus on that, instead of what drags us down.

Here are a few tips to help you enjoy your empathy and recalibrate to those good feelings more quickly:

1. Be a Good-Feeling-Seeking Empath

Being an empath simply means being aware of the energetic universe and able to feel it deeply. That also means you can pick and choose what you want to tune into.

Look for good wherever you go. Challenge yourself to notice kind drivers, helpful people, and beauty while you’re running errands. When you hear bad news, acknowledge it and your feelings—then turn away. Don’t dignify those who act out with your attention. In countless ways, we can seek out things we want to tune into rather than being tuned by others’ desires by default.

2. Enjoy Helpful People, Tools, and Techniques

If you enjoy healers, massage therapists, YouTube creators, musicians, sage, crystals, religious practices—anything that raises your vibe—make it part of your life and routine.

A living saint I follow encouraged us to chant 10,000 mantras a day during COVID. I never quite reached that number, but even after a few thousand, I was spinning in a field of Divine love that repelled both viruses and bad vibes.

Whatever good you enjoy, whether it’s saying prayers, chanting mantras, walking your dog, or basking in the healing purrs of your cat, will help you empath with the light and tune out the darkness.

3. Train Your Mind

When my dogs were young, they loved doing “zoomies.” They’d race around the hallway in circles, jumping on and off the bed, skidding into walls, falling over, and then doing it again with pure joy. It was precious, perfect, and hysterically funny.

It’s not as funny when our minds start doing zoomies—racing in circles, banging into mental walls, and creating chaos. That’s why it’s of great value to train our minds to calm down and tune into peace when they start running amok.

For some, this means deep meditation or breathwork. For me, it’s a trip to the ice bath twice a week. For others, it’s a quick nap, an affirmation, or a happy thought. Whatever helps you consistently recalibrate your mind when it goes off into the weeds is worth practicing.

Our feelings matter. I accept all of mine—the good, the bad, and the ugly, as the saying goes. I take a moment to feel them deeply, acknowledge what they’re trying to tell me, and then refocus on what feels better.

And in this way, even in a wild world with wars, tariffs, tiolence, and cruelty, we can focus on the peace, the prosperity, the benefits of our situation, the kind people, and the ever-present love of the Divine—that always and forever feels like Home. 💛